The jealousy of the Unfunded

There's so much money going into so many seed stage start-ups. 

But for those who don't get funding, and are obviously convinced that their idea is genius, there's an inherent negative feeling toward both investors and funded founders. 

And it's wrong.  

By the way, I'm writing from first hand experience.  

People invest in people they like. They aren't investing in ideas.  

If like me, you're a person that isn't very likeable, it's best to take on a lot of personal advice. 

I'm working on being less judgemental and more diplomatic.

And patience. I thought I was patient. I was wrong. Giving people time to get their head around their own thoughts and approach can yield better results all round. 

It's just like raising a kid. They won't 'do as they're told'. But they will copy what they see and learn as they do. 

But how to overcome the jealousy? My advice is to become better. Smarter. 

If, like me, you're non-technical and trying to build a technical product: stop. Do something you can do excellently.  

Hoping on someone giving you their time and/or money to do something you don't fully understand is naivety (and you don't know you don't fully understand until you do it with your own money and fail) .

Start simple, and ditch the delusions of grandeur. 

What are the odds of you succeeding? If you list all the things you need to do, you'll soon see that there's too much that can go wrong.  

Pare back your ambitions so that you have a (very) short list that is totally achievable in a short space of time (like today, because tomorrow doesn't exist yet).  

It's like playing poker. You might have a stellar set of cards in your hand. But you're not playing by yourself. If you don't understand all the possibilities you're facing in the hands of other people, the odds are you're going to lose (and lose big).  

What I'm saying is jealousy of those who have raised funding to hire developers and build product is a waste of an emotion. And it's misplaced anger.  

You're actually angry at your own feeling of inadequacy.

Instead, focus on what you could do better. What you can do smarter.

And for crying out loud ask for advice from people who have more experience. Especially those with experience of failure.  

Someone once told me: "ask for money and you get advice. Ask for advice and you get money." 

What he failed to add is it wasn't his money I would be getting.

It would be the money of my customers, because I worked hard to give them something they loved and valued.